Nowadays we hear a lot about empowerment – whether it’s empowering genders, empowering employees in the workplace or empowering communities – but what does ‘empowerment’ really mean?

Well if you look in the dictionary or on good old-fashioned Wikipedia you’ll find a definition along these lines.


Definition: Empower noun. To authorise
The authority or power given to someone to do something


Empowerment means different things to different people, but it’s basically the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling your own life, making your own decisions and choices, and claiming your rights (socially, economically or emotionally).

Psychologists often refer to an ‘empowering moment’. This is when we take charge of ourselves and ‘recreate’ who we are.

Empowering moments can be anything from getting your hair cut short when you’ve always kept it long to please someone else, or you’ve just decided to be happy every day or you’ve decided to be brave about a career choice or self-development. It’s personal to you.

The catalyst for these empowering moments often comes following a significant event or an immense loss – such as the death of a loved one. It can also come from a bad break-up where there might be a need to ‘reclaim’ some aspect of your identity.

Now as you can image, over the years Spirit has taught me a lot. And I mean A LOT! One of the things I have discovered is sometimes we look for permission to be ourselves, to change. That’s not necessary. There is no need to hand over the power to someone else. That’s not empowerment looks like.

People will often come to me, to check in with their loved ones and say ‘is this ok?’ Respect and care for another is quite different to giving away your own power/responsibility for your own life. It is my hope that these same people leave me that day feeling ‘empowered’ in some way.

A role I take seriously in life is to help people feel empowered. Whether that’s to make peace with the past or to help them open their own awareness to Spirit so they realise they don’t have to come and see someone like me – they can make those connections for themselves.

In fact, that’s one of the reasons I’ve been working hard in the background to develop my interactive, online community so I can share all I have learned with others. This is where all the action takes place. It’s a safe space where like-minded people come together, share, learn, support and empower each other on this journey called life.

But I’ll tell you more about that another time …



  • Have you ever had an empowering moment?
  • Can you describe how that felt? The emotions? The physical feeling?
  • Did that empowering moment lead to change in your life?
  • Would you like to learn more about how to Empower your life?
  • In what way would you want to empower your life? The Exercise below will help you identify this.


EXERCISE: Write down or acknowledge your answers to these questions.

  • Are you the person you want to be?
  • Have you ever had the thought ‘I don’t want to be that person (anymore)’?
  • Can you describe the person you want to be?
  • Imagine this person is your ‘role model’ or your ‘mentor’.
  • What would you look for in them?
  • What behaviours do they have/adopt/ that you would like to embrace/live?
  • What behaviours do you have now that you would need to stop?
  • Do you believe you can swap the bad behaviour trait for the good behaviour trait? You can start small.
  • Take a step back from the moment, and observe his reactions, thoughts, feelings, and external circumstances without judgment.

The goal is to simply identify who you want to be, and enact that behaviour in the moment.

You have the power to be the person you want to be in any given moment of the day.

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