As you can imagine the subject of grief is something I am asked about on a regular basis. I guess you could say it’s part of the job description really, it comes with the territory. But what if I told you grief could be the very thing shutting down that longed for connection with your loved one?
There’s no doubt about it – grief is a bitch! OK. Grief is a really tough emotion to deal with because it never really goes away. That’s the really hard part.
The way I visualise grief myself is that it’s like a great big hallway with many doors. These doors represent the myriad of memories you have of your loved one. It’s a bit of a gamble when you open one of these doors because you never really know how you are going to feel. You may open one door and feel happy and be able to smile at the memory, while another door on another day could be so painful you dissolve into tears.
So, there’s no doubt it’s a tricky thing to deal with.
This is one question that I have been asked a lot recently and is a very common one when you work in this profession so I thought it best that I share my thoughts on this topic and try to explain it so one might have a better understanding.
The short answer to this question is obviously answering in terms of a time frame, but while I will address this I will also cover other areas that can have an affect on your loved ones ability to communicate with you once they have passed over.
An absolute minimum time you should wait before seeking to communicate with your passed loved one is 3 months! However, it would be wise to try and wait for 6 months.
Whilst there is nothing to say that your loved one is not around immediately after their passing, it is important to allow them time to adjust to their new surroundings. Some of my clients have been very fortunate to have their loved ones come...